We were told there’s one way to do life: school, job, marriage, mortgage. But what if that’s not your version of happy?   Rebelling Against the “Shoulds” School. University. Job. Relationship. Buy a house. Get married. Have children. That was the story we were told, and for years, I thought it was the only version of success that counted. I can still picture it: a male friend of mine, pint in hand, listing those milestones like a moral checklist, wondering why I always seemed